I haven't told many people this… but my hubby and I got a divorce a few years ago… after we moved to our new house. 

Things just weren't working out.

We weren't in sync.

He was driving me nuts.

I was driving him nuts.

So we decided to split up. 

Turn out it was the best decision we ever made.

Wait a minute… no, not THAT kind of divorce! A SLEEP divorce!

I think I need to back up and explain this 🧐

You see… when we moved to our new house… my hubby found this amazing CA King sized Avocado mattress on Craigslist for $200 (he's a bargain hunter like that!). 

It's SO comfortable and we loved it! 

He even built a gorgeous bed frame for it (he's a man of many talents).

But we rarely sleep in that bed together anymore.  Why?

He snores. 😳

And I am a SUPER light sleeper.  😳

I was having a lot of hot flashes (hence, throwing covers on and off and on and off a million times a night)… which drove him nuts.

And this was before I reset my circadian rhythm… so I was staying up SUPER late… and he was getting UP super early… so we were on totally opposite schedules.  And we were disturbing each others' sleep.

So we decided to get a sleep divorce. 

He started sleeping in the office/guest room and I sleep in our old bed (don't worry, we got him an Avocado topper so his mattress is just as cozy as mine). 😘

Fast forward a few years… and we both just agree we sleep better when we sleep alone.  

👉🏼 Even though we're both on the same sleeping schedule now…

👉🏼 And I don't get as many hot flashes at night…

* In case you're wondering… he still snores (even with mouth tape)! 

I remember telling my therapist years ago that I felt bad that I liked sleeping separately.  She said, “Why? SO many couples sleep in separate beds.  The only thing that's important is what works best for you as a couple."

I wanted to bring this up in this newsletter because - if you, like me + my hubby, like your own space at night…

IT'S OK!

It doesn't mean your marriage sucks.

It doesn't mean you're selfish.

It doesn't mean you can't be close as a couple.

It just means you find it easier to regulate your body temperature, nervous system, snoring, and sleep better when you're solo.

And that's A-OK.
Because sleep is IMPORTANT as all heck.  

And… if you love sleeping in the same bed with your partner and you can't imagine it any other way… then that's beautiful too!

Either way is good!

👉🏾 What do you think? Are you for Sleep Divorces? Or do you think it sounds like the worst idea ever?